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Negative Emotions: How to Feel, Process & Heal Them | EP. 2

The Higher Perspective with VickiLynn
The Higher Perspective with VickiLynn
Negative Emotions: How to Feel, Process & Heal Them | EP. 2
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Emotions are a bit of an enigma for people. On one hand, they can be incredibly beautiful. But on the other hand, they can be excruciatingly painful. The secret no one ever told you is that your emotions hold tremendous power, value and meaning that is waiting to be discovered.

In this episode, I explore emotions from an energetic and spiritual perspective to help you uncover all of those things about them. I also share examples that will help you understand your emotions better and provide different techniques in how you can effectively work with them. My intention is to remove any fear you may have about feeling, processing and healing your emotions, even the most challenging ones.

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The song in this podcast is created and sung by VickiLynn. You can find her light language music here.

ABOUT VICKILYNN CHAN
VickiLynn is a Lemurian shamanic healer whose work inspires spiritual growth through the internal unification of dark and light. Her abilities, skills and wisdom comes from the numerous mystical experiences and interdimensional contact she’s had, as well as from healing herself from childhood trauma. She shares light language sound healing music and wisdom on the non-physical realms to encourage spiritual health, inner healing and energetic literacy so people can awaken to the truth of who they are.

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TRANSCRIPT

[00:00-00:31] As you know by now, emotions are energy. Energy is food that can nourish your soul and the cells in your body. But emotions can also be food for other people known as energy vampires, narcissists and toxic or negative individuals. Emotions can also be food for non-physical entities known as astral parasites. Yes, these things are real and they do exist.

[00:40-01:07] Hi, my name is VickiLynn and welcome to The Higher Perspective podcast, a show about seeing the truth to heal. Every week, I explore the non-physical realms that make up most of reality to bring awareness to the importance of spiritual health, inner healing and energetics so that you can awaken to the truth of who you are.

[01:11-03:27] Welcome back to the second episode. Today, I am going to talk about something very important. I’m going to expand on something I touched on last week, and that is human emotions. This is something I’m very passionate about for a couple of reasons.

The first one is because since I was a child, I’ve been very emotional and this has to do with the fact that I’m one of those people who are highly sensitive. Being sensitive has many positives and I love it but it does make experiences, including negative ones, much more intense. So when it comes to feeling negative emotions, they also hurt a lot more. For most of my life, my emotions caused a lot of havoc, everything from physical health issues to turbulent relationship experiences.

During that time in my life, I didn’t know what to do with all the emotions that I felt so I ended up stuffing it all down. The result of that was I became extremely emotionally sensitive where little things would trigger huge responses in me. This was because the container I was stuffing everything into was overflowing and didn’t have room to hold anything more. My emotions ended up being a huge storm that would come in, sweep me up and devastate everything as it passed through.

It wasn’t until I went through a really dark time in my life, some people refer to it as the dark night of the soul, where I was forced to confront all the things that I had bottled up inside of me over the years – all the pain, all the trauma, all the hurtful things that happened. And I wasn’t give any other option but to figure out how to process everything and heal from it. I did make it out on the other end to tell the tale, but what I really want to say is that I know emotions very well on a personal level.

[03:27-01:07] The second reason is I find that society is extremely emotionally stunted. Just because someone has an adult-sized body, doesn’t mean they act like one or that they are emotionally mature. Quite the opposite actually. The way most people handle their emotions is very immature. This shows up in politics, in celebrities and in the corporate world. It’s also very evident in how people treat each other in relationships and the nastiness that comes out on the internet. So this area definitely requires a lot of attention and that is why emotional healing is a big focus of the work that I do and the work that I share.

[00:40-04:18] As well, at a time like this when energies are intensifying and everything is getting pushed up into the conscious awareness, it is so important for you to learn how to work with your emotions in a healthy way. Because if you don’t, your emotional baggage is going to bring on a lot suffering and I don’t think anybody wants that.

[04:20-05:27] What I’m going to share in this episode are things that I have learned from diving into and feeling deeply my own emotions. More specifically, the excruciatingly painful ones because those were the ones that taught me and revealed to me the most. My perspective will be more spiritual-based because I have learned that emotions have a strong spiritual aspect to them which is deeply intertwined with your soul. Spirituality and your soul are abstract things so trying to intellectualize emotions, which is what society mostly does, will not get you very far.

What are Emotions & Where Do They Exist

[05:29-05:58] Alright so let’s begin by exploring what emotions are. In simple terms, emotions are pure vibrational energy. They can be measured as frequencies. They bring meaning and life to your human experience and gives it depth. Think of it like adding colour to a black and white painting. It turns it into something more captivating, something more beautiful.

[06:00-08:22] The full range of human emotions is huge. On one end, you have the highs which would be the positive ones like happiness and love. On the other end, you have the lows which are the negative ones like anger and shame. It’s the negative emotions that people really struggle with. These are the ones that they suppress, avoid and reject. And by doing that, it causes a major backlog of emotional energy which I brought up in the last episode. This backlog occurs in the emotional body. This is a subtle energetic layer that extends roughly an inch or so above your physical body. It’s part of your aura and it makes up your energy field.

If you’re wondering if you even have an emotional body, you do, everyone does. When you fall in love or connect intimately with another person, you are experiencing that in your emotional body. When you feel pain from being hurt by someone, you are also experiencing that in your emotional body. This layer is the space where your emotions are felt, processed and transmuted energetically. But if none of that work is being done, then the emotional energy just accumulates and gets stuck there. The more that accumulates, the heavier it gets. The longer this happens for, the more dense it becomes. Eventually, the density crystallizes and will show up as problems in your body and in your life.

These negative emotions are extremely toxic to your body and also to your soul. They act like an infection that rots you from the inside out so it’s not  good thing to hold these inside of you. A lot of the times when I do energy healing sessions with people, I have to go into this energetic layer – the emotional body – and help people clear out the accumulation and clean things up which will then alleviate some of the unpleasant problems they are experiencing.

[08:24-09:00] For a majority of people, emotions are really where it all begins. So if you don’t want to experience problems in your body or in your life, then it would be wise for you to work with your emotions and learn how to transmute the energy as it comes up. When it gets to the point where this energy crystallizes and manifests physically, it is much harder to resolve and it takes much more time and effort to fix. So it’s way better to be proactive and deal with it in the non-physical.

How to Process Your Emotions Effectively

[09:02-10:27] You might be wondering where to even start in terms of transmuting emotional energy. As a healer, I do this directly within the emotional body. But you can also learn to do this yourself. It involves moving the energy from your emotional body into your physical body and working it through your nervous system. This physicalizes these invisible energies in your body and gives you the opportunity to process them by feeling them.

Your nervous system is an incredible piece of machinery. It connects your physical body into the energetic field. It bridges the physical and the spiritual realms. It’s sort of like a highway for energy to travel down and through you. If you happen to experience anxiety, from an energetic point of view, that would mean you have a traffic jam on your highway so your nervous system is overloaded and backed up with unprocessed energy. You do need a healthy and clear nervous system to process your emotions effectively. So if you struggle with serious stress, anxiety or other types of nervous system issues, find ways to address it in your personal life or work with a healer. It’s really important.

Emotionally Numb: Why You’re Not Able to Feel Anything

[10:30-12:06] Feeling your emotions sounds simple but interestingly, a lot of people actually have trouble doing this. These people feel blocked or emotionally numb. I have found that the explanation for this is because they’ve disconnected from their emotional body so they’re not able to access their emotions and feel much anymore. This was done unconsciously as a protective mechanism. They unplugged from this part of themselves because at some point in the past, they felt excruciating pain, usually from a relationship that hurt a lot. They wanted the pain to stop and disconnecting from their emotional body was the only way they knew how to do that.

But then this becomes a Catch-22 because if you block off your ability to feel pain, you also block off your ability to feel the positive emotions. You know, the really wonderful ones that everyone wants like pure joy, natural ecstasy, unconditional love and oneness with the Universe. Feeling emotions is an all or nothing situation. You can’t pick and choose which emotions to feel and which ones not to. You either choose to feel them all or you choose to feel nothing at all. Can you take a wild guess on what the choice is for most people?

[12:08-12:34] Yeah, they pick to feel nothing at all.

It’s really sad but it’s the truth. This is why I think some people resort to using drugs and become addicted to them. They no longer are able to naturally feel these wonderful emotions and their soul yearns for that. So they fill in the void by creating these feelings in an artificial way using drugs.

[12:35-14:00] Pain is a strong signal from deep within your soul. It shows you something happened in the past that really hurt you. That experience caused an emotional injury and left you with a wound. Think of these emotional wounds like the ones that you can develop on your body. For them to heal, you need to clean it out, apply antibiotic cream, protect it with gauze or some kind of dressing and care for it over time. Your emotional wounds are the same but sadly, most people never attend to them so they never heal. No matter how long ago these hurtful things happened to you, if you’ve never dealt with them, the wound is still there and they are still charged with very strong negative emotions. Remember earlier I said that suppressed negative emotions are extremely toxic and they act like an infection that rots you from inside out? Well, if you have these internal wounds that have strong negative emotions attached to them and it’s been going on for many many years, how bad do you think the internal infection is going to be? I’d say pretty bad.

[14:02-14:43] If you’ve ever had a cut on your skin that got infected, you’ll know that the area gets inflamed and swollen. Even taking your finger and gently touching around the area can cause a lot of pain. This is the same idea with emotional wounds. Anything that remotely presses close to the wound will trigger immense pain. Pain is really just a symptom to show you there’s something you need to heal. There’s nothing you need to be afraid of. Not to mention, your nervous system is strong and powerful. It can handle the intensity of your emotions so you don’t need to worry.

Techniques for Emotional Healing

[14:43-15:53] So what can you do if your emotional body is disconnected and you have all these painful internal wounds?

As an intuitive sound artist and a shamanic healer, my suggestion would be for you to use sound and music as the healing balm. The honest truth is you have to find the courage to dive into the depths of your soul and feel everything, including the pain. There’s no way around it. But what you can do is use different tools, medicines and techniques that will soothe the pain, support and help make this process easier for you. The good news is that emotions have a very short life-span so if you’re worried about the pain, know that it’s only going to be temporary and it will not go on forever. 

Music is a familiar, safe and enjoyable way to reconnect to your emotional body. It can help your body relearn how to feel again by bringing your entire sensory system back online.

[15:57-17:25] Think about when you watch a movie or TV show, you become deeply absorbed into the storyline because of the music that is playing in the background. The music sets the mood and is actually curated specifically to evoke in you the same emotions that the character is feeling in the story. You start to resonate with the actor and become a part of the story. Now, you’re invested in the story and it feels very real to you. That is how you get hooked into movies and TV shows.

You can take this same idea but instead of using it just for entertainment, you can use it to help you heal your emotions. This is actually the concept behind the music I create. My intention with my music is to help you reconnect to your emotional body and support you in accessing your suppressed emotions in a gentle, loving and soothing way. Healing is sensitive work and it requires you to feel safe before your mind, body and soul will open up to you. I use light language in my music, not English, purposely to bypass the conscious mind and help you recall certain memories held within your subconscious mind. These memories lead you to the wounds you have and need tender loving care to heal.

[17:25-19:25] You don’t have to listen to my music. You can listen to whatever music you like because all music will trigger emotions and memories in some way. But just know that healing music is designed very differently than popular music used in entertainment. Everything from the song being tuned to 432 Hz instead of 440 Hz, the intention that is put into it during creation which gets embedded into the frequency waves and the tones of the voice will affect your mind, body and soul very differently. I cannot stress how important it is for you to be mindful of what you choose to listen to because energy, in the form of sound, carries information. And whether you are aware of it or not, you take in this information and it impacts you in huge ways. This is a topic I absolutely love, of course because it’s the work that I do, so I will do an entire episode in the near future where I share more about this. If this is something that interests you, then stay tuned. 

Sound is frequency and so are your emotions. When there is a resonance, the sound frequencies act like a key that opens a lock on a door, giving you access to what you cannot consciously reach right now. The mood in the music will trigger emotions that are similar to the sound frequencies in the song. Therefore, if you want to work with and heal say sadness or grief, choose instrumental music that sounds sad and go meditate with it. Allow the sound frequencies from the song to move through you and feel the emotions that it brings up within you.

[19:25-21:35] If you’re worried about your emotions getting too intense or out of control as they rise up within you, there is a technique you can use that will help stabilize you. The way to feel emotions without being swept up into the tornado is through slow, deep and conscious breaths. Think of your breath like a pole that you hammer securely into the ground. When the tornado (your emotion) comes through, you hold onto that pole (your breath) so that you don’t get blown all over the place. The tornado, like all weather, will pass shortly and you will have survived it, coming out of it in decent condition. 

So any time you feel an emotion rise inside of you, all you need to do is focus on your breath. Inhale slowly, counting up to 5, then exhale slowly. Keep repeating this simple exercise until the emotion completes its cycle fully.

How many times you have to do this before an emotion passes is going to be different for each wave. Just like all weather, the duration is never constant. How long your emotion lasts depends on what is triggered inside of you and the density in your emotional body. It might pass through within 30 seconds or it might take 5 minutes. It’s also not just going to be just one wave. Expect another, and another, and another. But if you engage with your emotions and allow it to pass through your body with the technique I described, I guarantee you the next wave is going to be way less intense and much shorter. Because emotions are energy. When you do work and use up energy, which in this case is by feeling it through your body, it loses its power and becomes weaker. This is basic physics. 

[21:37-22:07] Another way to use up the emotional energy is through creative expression. Examples you can consider include journaling, writing a letter you’ll never send, acting it out by yourself, drawing or painting, any kind of movement like exercise or dance, and singing. Whatever form you choose, give yourself at least 5 minutes to express what you’re feeling freely and do it without judgement of yourself.

What Suppressing & Denying Your Feelings Lead To

[22:09-24:03] Something important I want to mention is that if you don’t acknowledge how you really feel and give yourself the space to genuinely express your emotions, if you choose to stuff them down and deny them, you’re going to end up subconsciously projecting your feelings onto other people and out into the world. Now, if this was love and joy, that would be fantastic. But sadly, the emotions that people suppress and deny are the really negative ones. The toxic and painful ones. So those are the ones that get projected out into the world. Can you start to see now why this world is filled with people who hate and criticize others? Does it make sense now why there are so many people who are angry with the world? Can you start to see now why people are extremely negative and mean towards others?

These people are unconsciously projecting their own pain onto others to alleviate what they are feeling inside of them. It’s extremely immature and childish behaviour, but I don’t believe it’s done consciously. These people lack self-awareness and have never been taught how to deal with their emotions in a healthy way. They most likely subconsciously learned this from someone in their life who also is emotionally immature. Since you can’t change others, just remember this and know when others are being mean to you where it’s really coming from. Also, reflect upon how you treat others and how you feel about the world you live in. It will show you what you’re projecting outwards that you need to take back and own. 

A Crucial (and Often Missing) Step to Fully Processing Your Emotions

[24:07-26:04] Feeling the emotions and allowing it to move through your nervous system is only half of the work of processing it. If you stop there, the process is not complete so your emotions are likely going to keep coming back. This is because just like physical symptoms that show up in your body, your emotions are coming up because your soul is trying to communicate something to you. Until you fully receive the message and do something about it, your soul will keep up the communication. The other half of the work you need to do is use your consciousness to integrate the emotions psychologically.

The Hidden Connection Between Emotions & Beliefs

This means you follow your emotion until you find the belief attached to it. The belief is what the emotion is really trying to show you. I’m going to use the analogy of fishing to help you understand this concept. The emotion that you can feel is like the handle of the fishing rod. At the end of the fishing line where the hook is, that is where you will find your belief. The hook is submerged into the depths of the water so you can’t see it. The way you work with your emotions psychologically is by reeling in the fishing line, bringing the belief that is submerged deep within your subconscious mind up into your conscious awareness. 

It’s important to uncover your subconscious beliefs because they act like a pair of coloured glasses you put on over your eyes. It becomes a filter that alters how you see reality. For most people, the coloured glasses they are wearing are causing them to see life and their experiences in a negative way.

[26:04-29:03] When you encounter a problem in your life, the problem itself is actually neutral. It’s just an event, an experience. It’s the beliefs you have about yourself, about others and about the world that generates emotions which affects how you interpret the event and determines what kind of experience you have. Also, this is why when something happens in life and say 10 people are involved, rarely do all 10 people ever share the exact same experience. This is because each person carries their own beliefs. They’re all interpreting the same event through their own coloured glasses that are different than everyone else’s.

Once you find your belief, you examine it and analyze it. You question whether or not it is something that is serving you in a positive way or whether it’s even true. In most cases, you’ll find that it does not serve you and that it’s not even true. And if not, guess what? You can easily take off your coloured glasses and throw them away. Doing this will change your interpretation and response to what happened. This is how you can start to heal from things that have happened to you, no matter how long ago it occurred and how horrible it was. It’s through looking at them clearly without filters where you can start to heal. So your emotions hold tremendous value and they serve an important purpose. They have meaning. They are coming up to show you the internal workings that are building your reality. And if you don’t enjoy your current reality, it shows you how you can change it into something more desirable. 

This is the essence of how you do inner work. I’m sure there are many other ways but this is how I personally do it. It’s what has brought the best and most successful results. This is how I work with my own emotions and how I guide others in the consultation sessions I offer. Inner work is about travelling into the inner dimensions so you can get in touch with your soul. For a lot people, their soul is in very bad condition because of years of unconscious neglect, damage and abuse. A lot of love and healing is needed and attending to your emotions is a way for you to start doing that. Working with your emotions helps you develop a relationship with your authentic self, which is your soul. This is how you can achieve spiritual growth and evolve into the best version of yourself in life.

[29:06-30:04] To summarize, the formula to processing your emotions is pretty straight forward. There’s only two parts. The first part is allow your emotions to come through you while you stabilize yourself with your breath. You do this until you feel the energy move from your emotional body into your physical body through your nervous system.

The second part, work with your consciousness by tracing your emotions back until you find the limiting belief attached to it. Analyze that belief and then throw it out. That’s it! Piece of cake right? It sounds simple, only two steps, but in reality, it takes a lot of practice to truly master these two steps. However, if you take the time to develop that skill and get really good at it, your emotions will never be a problem for you ever again.

Emotions as Food for Others

[30:07-31:42] Let’s shift the focus in a slightly different direction and explore emotions in another context. As you know by now, emotions are energy. Energy is food that can nourish your soul and the cells in your body. But emotions can also be food for other people known as energy vampires, narcissists and toxic or negative individuals. Emotions can also be food for non-physical entities known as astral parasites. Yes, these things are real and they do exist. As a matter of fact, there’s a lot of interesting things in the non-physical realms. Part of what I want to do with this podcast is to explore those things with you. I think it’s important to learn about them because if you only focus on the physical reality in terms of what you can see, hear, touch, smell and taste, well then, you’re limiting yourself to only about 1-5% of reality. Ignoring the other 95-99% of reality would put you at a very big disadvantage in life. There are a lot of things that exist in that space which have tremendous influence over you. I’m not just talking about non-physical entities but also things you generate yourself such as your emotions and beliefs. All of these can affect you and be used against you so it’s important to become aware of them.

[31:-43-33:15] Going back to how emotions are food. Whether it’s another human being or another non-physical entity, these beings need to feed on your emotions and drain your energy because they are cut off from their own connection to Source. Since they no longer have access to that within themselves, they need to siphon other people’s energies instead to stay alive. This usually happens in the form of emotions.

Emotions are very juicy foods because they are highly charged energy. Just like in the human world where we have many different types of food, from a steak to exotic fruit, from a bowl of cheesy pasta to a fresh salad, there’s a variety to suit the wide range of taste preferences. There are also many different kinds of emotional food available. Earlier, I mentioned that the range of human emotions is huge, where you have the positive ones on one end and negative ones on the other end. Each emotion on that spectrum has its own unique frequency and in the context of it being food, it all tastes different. Some beings like certain types of frequencies more than others. Can you guess what type of emotion or frequency these kinds of people like to feed on?

[33:15-34:58] Yeah, it’s the low vibrational and negative emotions.  

The way I see it is when you’re interacting with a negative and toxic person, they are starving for food, but they only like low vibrational food. So what are they going to do? They are going to manipulate you emotionally so that you produce the food they like. When you interact with these kinds of people and you’re not paying attention, you’re going to be led down a path that leaves you feeling angry, hurt and upset, the exact type of energetic food they are looking for. This is why developing self-awareness, healing your wounds, learning how to transmute your emotional energy is mandatory for your spiritual health. Otherwise, you’re going to end up giving them exactly what they want and they’ll come back over and over and over again as you’ve established yourself as a reliable food source. This has consequences to your wellbeing and is often experienced as feelings of being drained, tired and unhappy. Now, ask yourself this honest question. Do you really want to open a free buffet that keeps attracting and feeding these types of people? Do you really want to keep giving these people juicy food that helps them grow bigger and stronger? If not, maybe it would be a good idea to change the menu at your buffet and put out different kinds of food, food they don’t like. 

[35:00-35:43] I wanted to bring this idea up because I want you to know that your emotions are powerful. Other people and other non-physical entities know the value of your emotions and therefore, they are after it. It’s about time you recognize its value too so you can learn to protect your energy. There’s no need to be afraid of your emotions, including the unpleasant ones, or try to banish them. The fear you have about your emotions will subside when you get to know what they are and understand them. Most importantly, learn to master your emotions so others don’t master you.

Outro

[35:47-36:34] In the next episode, I’m going to dive into the non-physical realms and talk about a new idea that I refer to as spiritual immunity. This is a going to be an ongoing series that I’ll revisit once in a while on this podcast that examines the different types of spiritual pathogens, an example being astral parasites, that are causing disturbances to your spiritual health and affecting your vitality. Just like how it’s important to learn about microbiology in science to protect your physical health, it is equally important to learn about spiritual pathogens to protect your spiritual health and keep your soul thriving. Don’t forget to subscribe. I’ll see you in the next episode.

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